A Few Ways to Self Care in 2019

Good morning!

Happy Hump day…..I wanted to discuss a topic that is important to our physical and mental health.  Its easy to get caught up in the day to day of life and forget about keeping your self mentally and physically healthy.  I wanted to pinpoint some ways that have helped myself, along with others regroup, and get back on track when things get foggy.  First lets describe what self care is: “the practice of taking an active role in protecting ones own well being and happiness, in particular during periods of stress.”

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Below are some ways that can potentially get you on the right track towards loving yourself first and making time for the small things that are easily overlooked when it comes to your well-being.

  1. Keep a planner or notebook with your feelings and thoughts – this is a great way to keep track of your future goals and plans.  Its proven that when you right down a goal, it becomes a plan, a plan in return becomes an action.  Keep your thoughts organized and set yourself deadlines on when you plan on executing these goals  either short term or long term. I myself have went through tons of planners and after a while they get put somewhere and forgotten, so make sure you choose  planner that is easy to bring with you, or keep near in times that you need to jot down a thought/feeling. 
  2. Take a break away from Social Media – close up shop and disengage.  Stop sharing your life with people you don’t speak to day to day.  Does it matter what the guy from senior year high-school 15 years ago is doing, or what your ex boyfriends kids look like? NO…..certain things should be private.  I was a big social media person a year ago but when I started a family and accumulated more things of value, I wanted to only share this with those I trust and love.  Social media is a great way to connect on a business stand point and with true friends but also can cause depression and envy during times of stress.  Log off and put away the social media and focus on the meaningful relationships in your life. 
  3. Organize your space – Cleaning and throwing away old baggage is a great way to de-clutter and feel on track.  For example, organizing your closet, and getting rid of old clothes and shoes that you no longer where or fit can help make room for new items that you need.  Making room for new items makes you feel like refreshed and positive. Many times when you get rid of junk and items that are taking space, you can make a list of the items you need and re-vamp.  Shopping therapy is always refreshing so set a date to de-clutter.
  4. Seek Professional Advice – Talk to someone that doesn’t know you or lacks judgement about your situation.  It can be embarrassing to open up to those that may not understand what you are going through.  If you meet with a therapist or psychologist, they can give you insight on what your feeling and help you sort a few things out. These people don’t have the answers but they can be an ear to listen when you need to vent or figure out your next steps. Here is a free sight that will assist with finding a therapist in your area: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists
  5. Read something that makes you happy – Reading was always something I enjoyed doing as a kid.  Its nothing like a good book to let your imagination run free.  Create your own world and characters.  It lets you get away from your reality for a while. Think about what type of books your would enjoy, such as self help, non fiction, fiction, research, comics etc.  Go tot he local bookstore or library.  Download the Kindle app on your phone or tablet and read. I can admit I have got away from readying myself but will make it a point to add more literature to my day to day moving forward.
  6. Plan something to look forward to – Always keep a future plan on your agenda.  Write down a end point and look forward to completing this whether it be a celebration, vacation, spa day, dinner with the girls or fellas, fun night out, whatever it is have an end point to something fun that helps you get by each day and week. 

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These are just a few ways that can help put you in the right direction. Thank you for Reading! Feel free to comment on what works for you as well!

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Traveling to other Countries as an American

I was speaking with my mom and mother in law over dinner the other day about traveling, and how wonderful it will be to finally travel outside the country with my husband.  He has been to many places in the past before we were married such as Thailand and Brazil.  We are planning a trip to Mexico (Cancun) in the next few weeks and I am looking forward to it.  I just received my passport and look at this trip as one of many moving forward.  To my dismay my excitement was slightly interrupted when the conversation went towards how other countries hate Americans.  Now I know since TRUMP has been in office we aren’t the most liked nation.  I can completely understand why. This makes me sad that now we have to really be on high alert when traveling outside the U.S .  My mother sent me an email about the increased murder rate in places like Mexico.  Usually the tourist areas are pretty safe and secure because this is what drives the most money in that area, tourism.

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We were going to go with another couple but they had to pull out.  My husband said that his friend mentioned it was because of finances, but I think it was his girlfriend that changed her mind,  She sent me a picture of an Iowa family who was found dead out there when the family reported them missing.  Come to find out they got Carbon Monoxide poising and it wasn’t anything related to foul play. I can see how Mexican people are upset with TRUMP, imagine being told a wall will be built because we don’t want your kind in America?  I do believe all illegal immigrants should have a green card or become U.S citizens but I don’t believe building a wall is going to be the right answer.  Its interesting to see if this man stays president all four years!  I honestly don’t even keep up with his ass, but I will probably start because all the burnt bridges he is making, you have to watch your back when traveling to other countries as an American.  Any who I am excited about my vacation and look forward to it! Thanks for Reading.

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