The Importance of Mental Health

This has been a topic in the media lately.  Let me know if you agree. There has been quite a few celebrity’s in the past few years committing suicide.  When you think of a celebrity lifestyle with fame, fortune and money, an average person such as myself would feel like whats there to be sad and depressed about?  I guess the saying is true, More Money More Problems. You never really know until your in the situation what comes along with it.

Mental Health – a person’s condition with regard to their psychological and emotional well-being.

In my opinion, mental health begins as a child.  Your experiences, and environment shapes you as you grow into your own.  When we become adults we either run from our past or repeat it because this is all we know.   Many children are exposed to things that have hurt their mental health and never received any treatment for it, so this behavior they are accustom to becomes normalized. What tends to happen is we gravitate to those who have had similar experiences because they are relate-able, and repeat a cycle which could be abusive relationships, drugs, promiscuity, crime etc. Kids look up to those closest to them which could be a parent, sibling, family member, friend.  Sometimes and in many cases these folks aren’t the best example, so what tends to happen is this child, now an adult grows up to believe that those experiences are normal, and this shows love.  In other cases there are children who vear the other way and do everything in their power not to repeat a generational cycle and go another route.  Many of these children have some form of mentor, or person in their life they pay attention to that may have overcome adversity, or find something to break the cycle for them such as getting a good education, using a talent, moving away and living with family members more stable etc.  

Mental Health affects you as an adult in many ways because what you feel and think can determine your decision making in life.  These thoughts and feelings are the driver of positive and negative energy. Your mental health can cause you to act out, or make rash decisions you cannot change later.  Many of these decisions not only hurt you, but others you care about. If mental health is not taken seriously, there is a large increase in crimes, murders, and abuse. Erratic behavior and episodes are prime examples that their could be something mentally not stable with a person. The answer is not always medication because the downside of medicating a mental illness is you become dependent on it to live life. The drugs make you feel as if you have thing sunder control, but your a dose away from hurting yourself and others. Many murders in jail have experiences as a child that has shaped them into believe their crime was justified or they were exposed to this behavior. 

I honestly believe once someone mentally has checked out, its hard to get back to that place of sanity. Reason is your constantly finding ways to cope,  This can be drugs, medication, and other actions that can hurt yourself and others. Mental health plays a huge role on your physical health as well. The drugs you put into your body can have affects on your health and organs. Think of all the celebrities who were affected by mental illness for whatever reason, most died of drug overdose. Michael Jackson, Whitney Houston, Prince, Teena Marie, Mac Miller and the list goes on.  Lets pray for Kanye West because he is clearly not mentally all there at this time. Suicide is real too, Kate Spade, Robin Williams just to name a few. Whats your thought on this topic?!

Thank you for reading! 

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Having a Peace of Mind….

What does this mean?  Does it mean not to have a worry in the world, or to let your mind wander to a place with no despair?  I really cant put a definition to it but I will say there is NOTHING like having a peace of mind.  When I look up the googled definition here is what I found:

If something gives you peace of mind , it stops you from worrying about a particular thing or event.

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There are times in life where I have had a piece of mind, and in most cases it was when I felt like I was in control of something.  Now looking back, a sense of control was a hidden sense of fear from things falling apart.  I don’t think we ever REALLY have control over anything in life. Sometimes things are up to chance or just natural causes. The only person that can really control THIS THING CALLED LIFE IS GOD. A spiritual healer and guide to help us navigate our purpose here on earth by listening.  Sometimes the loudest response is what has not been said. What made me really write a post about Having A Peace of mind is that we spend so much time worrying about things that we have absolutely no control over that we miss some  of the most amazing milestones in our life. Each year we get older and the years get numbered.  What have we accomplished so far?  Or did we spend the them full of worry and concern that we let all this valuable time pass us by. My mother said something to my sister and I the other day that hit home, and one day soon I will under stand.  She said ” I am not sixty five year old, there will be a day where there will be more days in your past than you have in your future.” This hit home because at her age she see’s a shortened road than I do in my thirties or my niece in her teens. When your young you feel like you have the world ahead of you, and plenty of time to accomplish life’s wonders. But in reality we have to use each day and year like its the best time. There are RIGHT times in life and those are the ones GOD allows to happen. One phrase I like is “its not what happens to you, but how you respond to what has happened.” 

Thank you for Reading!

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What Really is Free Thought?

I spent sometime this morning watching the TMZ interview with Kanye West and it really made my heart flutter with feeling sorry for him, but also finding a space for understanding what he is trying to convey. Let me start by first saying:  Kanye West from what I know about his career, has been through alot of pain in the past few years.  He morphed into this Hollywood bubble and it has taken him to a sunken place. I feel his actions is a cry for help to pull him out.  In this sunken place he has seen many things and his messaging to us, does not properly allow him to convey the message. Here are a few things that I feel contributed to his depression:

Passing of his mother, Car accident that fractured his face at the start of his career, Fallout with JayZ and Beyonce, the Taylor Swift controversy, Marriage to Kim Kardashian and the body shaming, he now has 3 kids all under the age of 5 years old….being put in a mental hospital, speaking out during the telethon for Katrina, and being criticized by the media just to name a few. We now know he has been put on Opioids and came out the hospital put on even more medication because this is what your told will make you better…..really????  I am sure there is more that we don’t even know about that this man has been through.  It does not matter how much money you have, it wont buy happiness. Hollywood is a fake world and you can easily get sucked in and kicked out and I think this is what he is fighting. 

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He speaks alot about Free Thought, and unfortunately humans do not have free thought.  We are taught how to feel, think, and live.  If we go against this as a human in today’s society, you are black balled, crazy, mentally ill, or incarcerated because you become a threat to society now. I will use people like TuPac for an example, he use to speak out about issues in the 90’s and injustice. Third led him to his unsolved murder 20 years later. I feel like he has a message but not able to convey it.  His mind is working over time to express how he feels that he speaks in circles or says things that only his mind understands. When he speaks of free thought – I feel he is saying, not living by society or man made standards, but being able to express ones self and belief.  Just because your told the sky is blue, do you have to identify the sky as blue if that’s now how your mind and eyes see it? If you express to the world that its not blue will you be marked as crazy, or ill? If you go against society, YOU are now the problem.  Which is true. Whoever hold the power can dictate whats right or wrong in this society. What Kanye needs to understand is that there are consequences for having FREE Thought.  We are not mentally FREE and never will be.  Yes, he has a platform to rant and reach many people to join this world of free thought, but what he does not get is that MAJORITY of us are working class citizens that will face REAL life CONSEQUENCES IF we try to go against society and create this FREE Thought. Yes in a perfect world I would love to challenge society and speak out about what is right and wrong, slavery, racism, gender-ism, and all the other issues in today’s society, but it doesn’t work like that.  You can get killed, jailed, lose your job. Look at Rachel Dozeal, the lady who was head of the NAACP, she has been black balled, cant find a job outed as a white woman faking to be black.  Although she did alot for the black community, that does not matter.  She went against what society says she is, and is marked as a liar so nothing else matter so of what she has done so far. I watched her Nextflix movie, called Being Rachel….and I learned more about how she became moved by living as a black woman.  She has a story.  She had mental issues from her childhood that morphed her to believe this is how she wanted to live her life.  She was abused etc. I don’t want to go into detail but if you watch, you will understand her story and why she lives her life this way. She is using FREE THOUGHT.  This is her TRUTH to her.  Look at the consequences she is facing for this Free Thought.  That is my problem with Kanye.  Yes I agree lets use LOVE as a way to make the world GREAT AGAIN, but its not our reality. ITS NOT! Love wont solve all because human emotions are not designed for us to do this. I understand he has a message but he is going to face alot of backlash or risk his life.  Many people who go against society, nothing good comes out of it.

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Living your life in a bubble, constantly being judged and dealing with non stop criticism can make anyone mentally stressed/crazy.  The human mind is so strong, but can only take so much. I feel like Kanye needs real friends around him to bring him back to the young Chicago boy hungry to rap and send positive messages. If you listen to his first few albums he had REAL messages that we could relate to, especially as an African American.  He spoke to the people, which made us listen and earn a respect of him. After the passing of his mother, I feel he just tried to surround himself with things to take his mind off of the pain and hurt, and he got caught up in this drama of drugs, drinking and fake people.  He married Kim who spends her life in the media, seeking attention, and to be this big reality start in this Hollywood fake worlds, which is everything Kanye West goes against. You look up 7-8 years later and now you have liposuction because Hollywood body shamed you – the one thing that you hated because it killed your mother.  You marry a woman who has alot of plastic surgery done on her body to keep up with the standards of society. You take pictures with the Donald Trump how is racist, lets make America Great again, instead of speaking out on your own campaign, not acknowledging the Republicans or Trump, you play and feed right into it which caused an uproar. I get what he was attempting to do, and don’t feel its from a malicious place, I feel like he is stressed and his mind is working overtime to put a message out that has not been well developed, processed and though through. At this point lets pray for him and hope that he gets the guidance and encouragement he needs to get back to the MUSIC. Thank you for Reading!

Watch TMZ interview here: https://youtu.be/lWJBWU7asEg

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