Colorism

This is a topic I wanted to discuss because I have seen quite a few articles mentioning the continued up rise in Colorism and specifically in the entertainment world. Id first like to address what Colorism is, I describe it as color preference within a group of people that have the same nationality. I am going to focus this conversation on African American people, although it is found in other minority races, its a trending topic in the Black community.  

My first encounter with colorism actually started as a girl in middle school.  It was something so simple that I didnt realize would become a issue within the black community. I remember being in 7th or 8th grade, and this is the era in my life where I started to like boys and they started to like me back or at least weren’t shy about showing it lol. I am a fair skinned girl so I would fall into the light skin category.  I remember young boys would have the conversation about which type preferred to date light skin or dark skin girls.  It was funny that this was even a topic of conversation but I remember them saying, I prefer light skin girls but I’d date a dark skin girl if she was FINE.  As a child I didnt pay much attention to these young boys comments but they ended up following to Highschool and college.  Now there were guys who indeed liked dark skin girls but it would always have to be explained which made no sense to me for example, they would say something like ” I don’t like light skin girls because they stuck up or think their all that, dark skin girls are cool and down to earth or I like dark skin girls because my mom is dark skin.”  It seemed like it was always a REASON instead of liking all women regardless of color. 

I really started to pay attention to Colorism as an adult when it became pretty evident that in today’s society especially in the music industry some of the most heavily promoted entertainers are fair skin, for example: Mariah Carey, Beyonce, Rhianna, Nicki Minaj, Cardi B, Ella Mai, and these are just to name a few main stream artists.  Don’t get me wrong we have many talented beautiful dark entertainers but how many do we actually see as major headliners? I see some mainstream actresses that are brown skin getting exposure but alot of times its only in the black community such as Gabrielle Union and Issa Rae.  But how many more are great that don’t really get the mainstream exposure? Another example is Khloe Kardashian, she recently had a baby girl, and the father is Black. Her child came out brown skinned instead of the typical fair skin mixed look that many bi-racial babies have.  Her child received criticism from social media on pictures she posted that were comments about her baby being darker than her cousins who were also bi-racial. She had a taste of what it really feels like to raise a black child and some of the negativity we face in our culture. 

I watched this documentary on YOUTUBE called – Cake Soap – Skin Bleaching and it covered people in Jamaica bleaching their skin so they can look white or light complexion. Whats sad is that in this film they really believed that the lighter the skin the more acceptable they are even being Jamaican decent where they have naturally dark skin of all shades.  It was sad to see because they reason it became popular was due to a Dance Hall Rapper named Vybz Kartel who bleached his skin and said it was cool, and if you want to be cool too you will use the cake soap.  Its crazy how lyrics in a song or a preference can cause humans to put themselves in danger of their health to be accepted or considered pretty or handsome.  It was very disappointing to see and here is a link if you wish to check it out: 

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I feel like we are all beautiful in our own way, and what makes you beautiful is your confidence.  You can please everyone and you should not try.  Black is beautiful because of the melting pot of shades and we are so blessed to have so many in our nationality it should be celebrated. Its okay to have a preference, but to say one is BETTER than the other is what I do not agree with.  Preference is personal choice but when one is put on a pedestal over the other that’s when it becomes a issue.  What do you think?

Thank you for Reading!

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Illuminati, Stay Right Where You Are!

The Media sucks, plain and simple.  They pull us in by broadcasting what is trending at the time and force us to swallow it until its no longer a HOT TOPIC.  Many of these things displayed in the media are planned and sponsored by the big guys behind the scene. The money you have, or can generate will dictate how much love and support the media will give you. If you can bring media attention, and make them money, you can have the spot light.  The media LOVES people who make an ass of themselves and don’t care.  They will actually pay these people to do something unethical JUST to bring attention to their media platform whether its be radio, News, TV, Social media sites etc. For example, Kanye West, he made a complete ass of himself last week and the media took to it, and forced his coonery down our throats.  That’s why they give him the attention cause they support him being an attention whore.  I am not trying to put anyone down in this blog post, but it makes me sick how the media will give the attention to those that really are irrelevant to our lives. Another example is Kim Kardashian.  Hey, I am not hating on her, she pulled the worlds attention in by her fiasco’s and attention whore ways and it paid off for herself and family.  So you think, Kim and Kanye both will do whatever they deem fit to keep media attention them even if it is unethical, selfish, makes no sense.  

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We can look at this as entertainment but when is enough, enough.  When do you sit back and realize making dumb decisions to get media attention is only going to hurt you in the long run.  Another example, the Kardashian sisters all have babies out of wedlock accept Kim (whose marriage I think is crumbling but they are going to hide it and be fake for  ratings.) *sidenote* Typically if these were African american woman, it would be looked down upon, judged, and definitely not gloried in the media.  Its just a double standard.  If it was another rapper who made a fool of themselves like Kanye West did, they would be more than likely black balled.  Oh, but since its Kanye, watch he have an album drop in a few weeks so we LOVE him again, and low key forget what of an ass he made of himself last week.  

One last example, Cardi B, hey she is winning right now.  The media gives her so much attention, and the record labels have put so much money behind her because she is playing the media game, she posts snap chats, Instagram posts almost everyday, she shared 90% of her life online and the media loves her ratchetness. So anyone that is willing to be recruited by the media and play their role to generate a profit whether you sell your soul or not, will be front and center with the medias attention, President TRUMP keeps himself in the media for the WRONG reasons….smh….stay woke lol. Thank you for reading!

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Why are we still calling it…..Reality TV??!

At some point it has to stop.  This fake world of trying to get famous quick or become relevant again.  That is what I call fake TV aka Reality TV.  It really has got out of hand!I use to watch reality TV when I was a teenager when it first became popular into my adulthood.  Just recently say about 1 year ago I stopped cold turkey.  When reality TV first became popular with shows like The Real World, Making The Band, Bad Girls Club, Catfish, Basketball Wives, Teenage Moms, The Bachelor etc I watched Reality TV.  I had a laundry list of shows I use to DVR so I didn’t miss while I was at school or work.  It became addictive quick because it allowed you to look into the lives of others, and see all the dysfunction, which pulled you in to the drama once a week.  Its like an addiction.  You can literally be so consumed with making sure you catch up on your reality TV shows that you don’t want to do anything else.  They got us hooked!  

reality-tvAs time went on, you started noticing that regular TV shows became non existent, and replaced by this new thing called Reality TV.  Its as if it took over.  Soon that is all you could find.  Now in 2018, majority of the shows on TV are some form of Reality TV type show.  What sucks is that REALITY TV is NOT REAL!  The definition I googled on Reality TV is: television programs in which real people are continuously filmed, designed to be entertaining rather than informative.  Which means aka – we will make fake story lines or exaggerate scenes for ratings so we can keep people glued in, even if it comes down to acting or creating a fake scene.  How is something fake, your reality?  Many of these Reality TV stars are famous because of social media.  If they did not have a following, and fans that want to see more of the foolery from their show, they would not have a name for themselves.  I will use Cardi B for example.  This woman has been rapping, and trying to put her music out there for years.  She used reality TV as a platform to get her name out there, and to quit stripping.  The money from reality TV helped her, and thus created a huge following for her personality and appearance on Reality TV show Love & Hiphop.  Cardi used social media and her popularity to push her music and create an even bigger name for herself. This goes to show you how powerful Reality TV and Social media, even if its FAKE.  Even if you are given fake roles and story lines for ratings.  America loves drama if its not their OWN.

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My issue with Reality TV is that its making any and everyone famous who don’t have shit to offer positive to society.  Its like these new age rappers which music sucks can push a song on social media, or have an appearance on Reality TV and if they create a buzz, now there trending.  Hey, I am not hating, get it how you live but what happen to good traditional TV shows like: In Living Color, Fresh Prince of Bel-air, Martin, Sister, Sister, Family Matters, Boy Meets World, Beverly Hills 90210 etc.?  Honestly, I don’t even watch cable anymore, I watch Netflix, HULU and shows that actually have good actors, that are entertaining in a GOOD way. I am not knocking anyone who needs their Reality TV fix but honestly I had enough.  I hope they bring good old fashion TV back. Thank you for Reading! 

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The Social Media Experience

Good morning!!!! Happy Monday.  I felt compelled to write about something that has become so main stream and so normal that people are shocked when you do not utilize it. SOCIAL MEDIA.  I will admit, I use to be on there for years, I remember having a Black planet Page, that was the first, then MYSPACE, next Facebook and Now Instagram.  I saw the social media phenomenon over the years take off!  It was exciting cause you can meet people across the country and as it progressed, showcase your life, and stay in touch with friends/family from a distance.  But I must ask, has social media really bought us closer????

You can analyze this in two ways, does it cause you to verbally speak more, or do you find yourself scrolling and taking in every picture and post with envy if it “LOOKS” like they have the perfect life? Does this cause you to want to call them to support, or be nosy and find out whats going on?  The thing about social media is that it can turn into a competition on who can showcase all of their business the most, and whose lives look the best based on pictures, and status updates and shared internet quotes. Don’t get me wrong, its amazing to see everyone doing GREAT, but what I have learned is that people only post what they want you to know!  A picture is only a moment in time.  That picture can be the false smile of a girl that is considering suicide, that happy couples picture can be a mending of a abusive relationship that everyone thinks is the perfect couple. The status update can be from a man or woman who constantly compares their life to what others are doing but has lost reality of themselves.

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My point is, remember social media is a fake word.  Its a place where you can show the world either your REAL life or How you WISH your life really was.   You ever wonder why some people delete their accounts?  They probably caught a case of FACEBOOK or Instagram Envy and wanted to divorce themselves from that feeling. It may sound crazy but its real I am pretty sure everyone has experience it once whether it was personal, financial or recreational.  Someone posted something that made you feel a way at some point in time.

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I always recommend to take time out to disconnect.  Everyone does not have to know your next move in life.  Some moments are sacred. Special. For you and your family. Don’t let your life get dictated by what the majority is doing, do it because it serves value to yourself and always consider what you post because Trust me once its on the internet it stays forever. Thanks for Reading guys!

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