I remember before I got married, I though I knew what love was. Its easy when your younger to think that the first boy you think is cute, talented and funny….he is it! When your parents say things like “your young, your going to meet many people, give yourself time, don’t take dating too seriously at your age” you really don’t understand what they mean until your older, and have started to learn who you are in a relationship. That girl or guy you meet when your 16 years old seems life the perfect match because there is no responsibility involved. “Love” was easy and it felt good. Realistically as you get older and realize what Love REALLY is, you realize that it was “puppy love.” I dont want to say “lust” because I feel like “lust” is discovered when you get older and start exploring your sexuality. Its easy, especially as women to confuse LOVE for LUST. It takes us “alot of the time” to get our heart broken by that “one” guy” to know it was lust and he doesn’t love us. Once we go through that heartbreak, we try to be more careful not to fall into “lust” with the wrong guy.
Being married and in a committed relationship has helped me see the difference between just being in a relationship, and actually LOVING someone. When you “LOVE” someone for real, you care about their well-being just as much if not more than your own. You are willing to make sacrifices, or put your personal “wants” aside to assist them on their life’s journey. There are so many factors involved but LOVE is unselfish. I look back on previous relationships and I was selfish, if it didn’t benefit me, I was not doing it, or I always had one foot out the door because I wasn’t certain or secure with that person. This was like the two prior relationships I had in my 20’s. Now being married, he is my best friend, we talk about everything, and I care about his life just as much as my own. Its definitely takes time to learn the difference but its so important to do so. I seen some great information’s below that explains more about this topic…feel free to share your experience, Thanks for Reading!