I find that this topic is important because finance has become one of the top reasons for issues within relationships. Going in, people may not consider the financial burden that can take place as responsibilities increase. How important to you is your spouses income or salary? For me personally, it is very important. Although I find it important for my spouse and I having our own money and bank account to purchase things we need and want individuality, the goal in marriage is to have a help-mate both emotionally, spiritually and financially. It makes life a whole lot easier. I also agree with splitting things 50/50 for the more expensive bills, and designation of the smaller bills to each other. For example, both split mortgage or rent, and someone gets the electricity, and the other gets the cable etc. In a way, its fair to me. But what if one partner make significantly less, should they pay equal?
In my opinion the spouse who has a lower income should maybe take on some of the smaller expenses such as utilities and grocery. The spouse with the larger income may pay the higher bills, but they are less of them. That’s the only way I can see it because personally, I don’t see my self in a relationship with someone that can split the expenses 50/50 at least the important ones. I believe for me, this comes from working hard for my money, and if I am carrying the load, its hard to use the excess money to enjoy such as shopping, travel, recreation etc. without being tight every pay check. If we both carry our weight, we both can have additional funds for enjoyment. I believe in the importance of being equally yolked. I do understand that at times we all get tight or hardships are faced, and yes the help of your partner holding things up is a benefit and should be something they do, but on a average daily basis, if we both are helping out, it can make things so much easier.
What are your thoughts on this, and what would you do? Thanks for Reading!